Life Lessons I’ve Learned Since Taking The Rose Coloured Glasses Off.

Okay. Time for a deep (ish) blog post. Life lessons and the one’s I learned the hard way. Or simply noticed as I got older and less inclined to listen to bullshit. Let me know which ones you knew or ones I may not mention in the comments. Its always good to learn more.

1. People and success. The mass majority of people in your life really don’t want you to succeed at all. They want you to do well but not better than them. And thats a scary thing to accept. It hit me when my mum would smug over the fact that I didn’t get tbe job I wanted or when I went through my times of unemployment.

2. The only person you can actually count on is yourself in this world. Too many people will expect something or some form of payment in return if they help you. And some peoplejust can not be counted on in the least.

3. Your gonna lose some people. Whether that’s cause people have moved away, grown apart or a little fight that has grown ugly. Sometimes it’s a good thing to leave people behind and others your gonna miss like crazy. But unfortunalety it happens. If you have people you want to keep in your life then keep them there.

4. The world will try to make you feel ashamed of your beliefs. Stick to your guns and you beliefs. Don’t let anyone change you or tell you how to act. We are all awesome and should be allowed to feel awesome.

5. Being an adult can suck. Like seriously can I go back to being a kid please? Try and keep those childish hobbies alive. You like pokemon?? Fantastic so do I. You like collecting stamps. That’s awesome. What about that secert love for dinosaurs? Don’t be afraid of sharing your passions and hobbies with others.

6. Last but not least. Learn how to love yourself. It will be the greatest thing you will ever do. I’m perfect for me and only me. I love my flaws and scars. My history aint pretty but it has made me how I am. I’ll be honest with you I used to hate myself. But now I love myself and who I am, from my tattooed ankles all the way to my button nose.

Really enjoyed writing this little ranty like post. Do you agree with any of these? Have you got any that you would like to share, let folk know in the comments.

Until next time my lovelies.

Xx

Why Failure Isn’t Always Failure. 

Failure. Such a scary thing but it really ain’t when you look at it from a different point of view. 

At young ages we are taught to be afraid of failure, to be ashamed of ourselves when we do fail. I used to think like that until I hit my early twenties. And things got a whole lot better after some major changes. 

Failure isn’t failure. Shouldn’t really call it that should I?? How about we call it a chance. A chance is something that we do as a risk. We aren’t 100% sure if that risk we take will work out or not. Heck it might be a complete and utter disaster. It might be the best damn thing you will ever do. 

It’s where we learn what works and what doesn’t work. And that is a valuable thing to have because it changes our mindset about taking risks or chances. Thinking of it as a lesson – as in what can I learn from it, I’ll give it a try or let’s see if this method works – these mindsets take the fear away from failing and instead create a mindset of excitment, learning and progression. 

In some cases things do fail or just aren’t working at the time, those cases could be a project or issue that we have been sitting and staring at for far too long. Those times it’s okay to take a step back for a few days and come back to it with fresh eyes. 

Failure if treated like a lesson can open up so many doors. A lesson I had learned from a failure was that I really am better at hand sewing than machine sewing. After several attempts at the machine, 2 meters of ruined fabric and a few hours later I left my project for a few days. I came back later on and tried hand sewing. While it took alot longer, and I had to learn 3 – 4 different stitch types, I had finish my project and the result was amazing. It was my first large scale project with so many things going on at once. 

I hope this post helps any of you. If you have a lesson or something you learned for a ‘failure’ please share it in the comments. I’d love to read others experience’s. 

Until next time my lovelies. Xxx

Some Tips on Valuing Yourself

We’ve all been there where we under value ourselves. Where we beat ourself up over something or think less of ourselves. We all do it. And its just not healthy for us. So I’m recommending some tips, that have worked for me in realising my personal value. 

  • Instead of seeing something as failure see it as a lesson. A learning curve, where you tried something and even though it didn’t work out the first time you learned something new through the experience. It could be a new food, or something like dancing.
  • Stop making excuses for people who aren’t worth it. These people will keep letting you down if its a regular thing. Your time is scared, use it wisely. 
  • Say no, mean no and stand by that no. Don’t cave under the pressure from anyone. Doesn’t matter if it’s family, friends etc. Stick to your guns or that gut feeling. You came to that desicion and have that feeling for a reason!! 
  • Second best ain’t happening! Don’t allow yourself to be treated as second best. Your the Queen (or King) of your life not a dessert or a toy to be played with. 
  • Relaise that YOU are the proirity of your life. You may have kids, or someone who relies on you and they are important too but again so are you. Plus your their role model. If they see you being confident, humble and looking after yourself they will do they same. 
  • And finally the last one and the most important. Be the CEO of your life. You have the power to promote, demote or fire anyone in your life. Use it. Understand your value and show people they can not undervalue you. 
  • Take pride in your interests and passions. Not everyone will like them but these hobbies make you happy. Share them with others and even join groups of like minded people. Don’t allow pigeons to laugh at your mind. 

I hope these little tips help or even solidify the feeling of your personal value. If anyone has anymore tips don’t be afraid to leave them in the comments. Your words of wisdom are always welcome. 

Until next time my lovelies. 

Xx