Saving For The Future. (Mini Personal Achievement!)

Hello my lovelies. How have you guys been this crazy week? Its went by really fast for me. One day it was the end of the weekend, now it’s my weekend again. This is gonna be a some what chatty post today.

Welp lets jump right into it before I squeal with excitment. (Before I go any futher, Im not bragging in the slightest kay.) This year me and the other half made the agreement that we are going to save for our own house. We are currently renting and lets be honest, while the area is nice its not a place we want to be long term. Or if we plan on expanding our family.

So I have had problems with saving for years. (Money grabbing parents who where not ready for 3 extra mouths to feed and guilt tripped the cash outta us.) But I finally did something I wanted to do for ages. Since I was 18. Drum roll please…………

I FINALLY SAVED £1000!!!!!!

Eeek. After months of on/off work. Being worried sick and feeling completely useless I finally reached a milestone that I had wanted for just under 8 years. And it feels amazing. 😄

I may be a little tighter fisted with my cash now, and even questioning if I need things when I’m shopping or out and about. We are even home cooking meals for work which is amazing for the both of us. I’m just so happy and proud of myself. Very pleased to see that all the hard work that I’m putting in is finally amounting to something.

And I wanted to share this excitment with you guys.

Until next time my lovelies.

Xx

Life Lessons I’ve Learned Since Taking The Rose Coloured Glasses Off.

Okay. Time for a deep (ish) blog post. Life lessons and the one’s I learned the hard way. Or simply noticed as I got older and less inclined to listen to bullshit. Let me know which ones you knew or ones I may not mention in the comments. Its always good to learn more.

1. People and success. The mass majority of people in your life really don’t want you to succeed at all. They want you to do well but not better than them. And thats a scary thing to accept. It hit me when my mum would smug over the fact that I didn’t get tbe job I wanted or when I went through my times of unemployment.

2. The only person you can actually count on is yourself in this world. Too many people will expect something or some form of payment in return if they help you. And some peoplejust can not be counted on in the least.

3. Your gonna lose some people. Whether that’s cause people have moved away, grown apart or a little fight that has grown ugly. Sometimes it’s a good thing to leave people behind and others your gonna miss like crazy. But unfortunalety it happens. If you have people you want to keep in your life then keep them there.

4. The world will try to make you feel ashamed of your beliefs. Stick to your guns and you beliefs. Don’t let anyone change you or tell you how to act. We are all awesome and should be allowed to feel awesome.

5. Being an adult can suck. Like seriously can I go back to being a kid please? Try and keep those childish hobbies alive. You like pokemon?? Fantastic so do I. You like collecting stamps. That’s awesome. What about that secert love for dinosaurs? Don’t be afraid of sharing your passions and hobbies with others.

6. Last but not least. Learn how to love yourself. It will be the greatest thing you will ever do. I’m perfect for me and only me. I love my flaws and scars. My history aint pretty but it has made me how I am. I’ll be honest with you I used to hate myself. But now I love myself and who I am, from my tattooed ankles all the way to my button nose.

Really enjoyed writing this little ranty like post. Do you agree with any of these? Have you got any that you would like to share, let folk know in the comments.

Until next time my lovelies.

Xx

Why Failure Isn’t Always Failure. 

Failure. Such a scary thing but it really ain’t when you look at it from a different point of view. 

At young ages we are taught to be afraid of failure, to be ashamed of ourselves when we do fail. I used to think like that until I hit my early twenties. And things got a whole lot better after some major changes. 

Failure isn’t failure. Shouldn’t really call it that should I?? How about we call it a chance. A chance is something that we do as a risk. We aren’t 100% sure if that risk we take will work out or not. Heck it might be a complete and utter disaster. It might be the best damn thing you will ever do. 

It’s where we learn what works and what doesn’t work. And that is a valuable thing to have because it changes our mindset about taking risks or chances. Thinking of it as a lesson – as in what can I learn from it, I’ll give it a try or let’s see if this method works – these mindsets take the fear away from failing and instead create a mindset of excitment, learning and progression. 

In some cases things do fail or just aren’t working at the time, those cases could be a project or issue that we have been sitting and staring at for far too long. Those times it’s okay to take a step back for a few days and come back to it with fresh eyes. 

Failure if treated like a lesson can open up so many doors. A lesson I had learned from a failure was that I really am better at hand sewing than machine sewing. After several attempts at the machine, 2 meters of ruined fabric and a few hours later I left my project for a few days. I came back later on and tried hand sewing. While it took alot longer, and I had to learn 3 – 4 different stitch types, I had finish my project and the result was amazing. It was my first large scale project with so many things going on at once. 

I hope this post helps any of you. If you have a lesson or something you learned for a ‘failure’ please share it in the comments. I’d love to read others experience’s. 

Until next time my lovelies. Xxx

Who Am I. (A Personal List) 

Who am I? Hmm that’s an easy question I guess. I could give you details like my name, age and birthday. But what can you really learn from that!? What do we really know about people from what we see and hear? Let me tell ya, not very much. We see a different person every single time. The workaholic, the worrier, the quiet one. 

Let me tell you lovely people who I am. 

  • I can saves lives with some of my training. First Aid, siezure’s and many more. 
  • I’m an older sister, younger sister, daughter, aunt, lover, partner, friend, bestfriend, a teacher, a student, a lost soul and a growing hatchling. 
  • I risked my life for someone else’s. It was a scary moment and I didn’t have time to think. I just moved. 
  • Emotions hate me. I feel them far too deeply at times and other times I’m like ice. 
  • I don’t care for excuses and lies. If your gonna do something then go do it. Either be honest or get out my face. 
  • A chatter box most the time really but sometimes I love my silence. It calms my nerves and brings me back to a steadier mental moment. But it has to be silence that I choose.
  • Being the middle child I got the hot end of the metal pike. When the sister’s fucked up I got the heat. 10 fold. 
  • I have very little time for unmotivated, moany people. I can not deal with it at all and will cut them from my life if need be. 
  • My personality scares people and has made some feel intimated by me. Good. I’m a strong, passionate woman who loves life and my work. Not my fault at the end of the day. 
  • I over think everything. Then I need to pinch myself before I cause any unnessacary drama. 

    These are just the surface of who I am. Kinda hope this helps others realise that they are so much more than just a name or a number. We are complicated creatures at the end of the day. 

    Until next time my lovelies. 

    Xx

    Shop Is Open! And Youtube!

    Hello my lovelies. How are you all today? Hope your all ready for the weekend! It’s certainly been a very busy week for me. So many things have been happening and I finally feel like things are moving in the right direction. Plans and dreams that I’ve had for years have finally had their seeds planted!

    Some of you may know that I’ve been wanting to open a shop for a long time now and I finally done it!! I’m so happy and excited to announce that I now have an Etsy shop!

    And here is a link to that shop. My Etsy Shop

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    My button coin purse. Hand made and hand stitched. 

    I love this button coin purse. It was easy to make and it was very pleasing to finally use some of the fabric that I’ve been accumulating over the last year or two for something. I much prefer the rounded corners than the shape ones. (Made that mistake with my first one!) I’m hoping to get better with sewing zips on and more complex embroidery. 🙂

    The shop contains some other hand made pieces and one painting. I hope to get more stock in in the coming weeks and hope you all enjoy. Having this shop is giving me a great little push that I need to be more creative and gain more skill in hand embroidery. Keep an eye out for more work to come. I have some exciting things in store and can not wait to share them all with you.

    Now onto the second part. My Youtube Channel

    Since blogging I’ve always had a growing interest in youtube or vlogging. And after much debate with myself I realized that I didn’t have anything too loose and went for it. I’ve only got a few videos up and still have much to learn/get. Such as editing equipment, an sd card that will work with my camera (it’s an older model but works perfectly) and some decent lighting. But that will all come in time but for now I’m really enjoying it.

    I hope you enjoy and until next time my lovelies.

    xx

     

    Some Tips on Valuing Yourself

    We’ve all been there where we under value ourselves. Where we beat ourself up over something or think less of ourselves. We all do it. And its just not healthy for us. So I’m recommending some tips, that have worked for me in realising my personal value. 

    • Instead of seeing something as failure see it as a lesson. A learning curve, where you tried something and even though it didn’t work out the first time you learned something new through the experience. It could be a new food, or something like dancing.
    • Stop making excuses for people who aren’t worth it. These people will keep letting you down if its a regular thing. Your time is scared, use it wisely. 
    • Say no, mean no and stand by that no. Don’t cave under the pressure from anyone. Doesn’t matter if it’s family, friends etc. Stick to your guns or that gut feeling. You came to that desicion and have that feeling for a reason!! 
    • Second best ain’t happening! Don’t allow yourself to be treated as second best. Your the Queen (or King) of your life not a dessert or a toy to be played with. 
    • Relaise that YOU are the proirity of your life. You may have kids, or someone who relies on you and they are important too but again so are you. Plus your their role model. If they see you being confident, humble and looking after yourself they will do they same. 
    • And finally the last one and the most important. Be the CEO of your life. You have the power to promote, demote or fire anyone in your life. Use it. Understand your value and show people they can not undervalue you. 
    • Take pride in your interests and passions. Not everyone will like them but these hobbies make you happy. Share them with others and even join groups of like minded people. Don’t allow pigeons to laugh at your mind. 

    I hope these little tips help or even solidify the feeling of your personal value. If anyone has anymore tips don’t be afraid to leave them in the comments. Your words of wisdom are always welcome. 

    Until next time my lovelies. 

    Xx

    Why I Won’t Listen Too Other’s Opinion’s of My Life.

    Everyone has an opinion, a say in something. And that’s completely fine in some areas but not in others. 

    My life. My rules. I used to care and listen to people’s opinion’s about me all the time. I tried to become what they wanted and ended up crashing. Looking in the mirror I began to see what these opinion’s had done to me. So I broke all those chains, dropped the shackles and removed the poison from my viens. 

    Now I scare people with my confidence. Some hate that their words no longer mean anything. Other’s barely recongnise me. 

    The only opinion about my life that matters is my own. No one elses. No one else lives my life, puts air into my lungs or see’s through my eyes. Only me. 

    People will express a negative opinion because they want to see me fall, to see me fail or become the person I was before. Heck they’ll spread lies. Anything that they can to get people to listen. And that’s fine. 

    I learned the hard way that the only opinion that matters in my life is my own. My intelligence, my laugh, my life. It’s not ran by anyone else, no one else live’s it but me. No one know’s my thought process or how I came to a conclusion. If they care, then they shall ask. 

    If I want someone’s opinion then I’ll ask them. 

    It’s your life. The only opinion that matters in your life is your own. 

    Xx