Life Lessons I’ve Learned Since Taking The Rose Coloured Glasses Off.

Okay. Time for a deep (ish) blog post. Life lessons and the one’s I learned the hard way. Or simply noticed as I got older and less inclined to listen to bullshit. Let me know which ones you knew or ones I may not mention in the comments. Its always good to learn more.

1. People and success. The mass majority of people in your life really don’t want you to succeed at all. They want you to do well but not better than them. And thats a scary thing to accept. It hit me when my mum would smug over the fact that I didn’t get tbe job I wanted or when I went through my times of unemployment.

2. The only person you can actually count on is yourself in this world. Too many people will expect something or some form of payment in return if they help you. And some peoplejust can not be counted on in the least.

3. Your gonna lose some people. Whether that’s cause people have moved away, grown apart or a little fight that has grown ugly. Sometimes it’s a good thing to leave people behind and others your gonna miss like crazy. But unfortunalety it happens. If you have people you want to keep in your life then keep them there.

4. The world will try to make you feel ashamed of your beliefs. Stick to your guns and you beliefs. Don’t let anyone change you or tell you how to act. We are all awesome and should be allowed to feel awesome.

5. Being an adult can suck. Like seriously can I go back to being a kid please? Try and keep those childish hobbies alive. You like pokemon?? Fantastic so do I. You like collecting stamps. That’s awesome. What about that secert love for dinosaurs? Don’t be afraid of sharing your passions and hobbies with others.

6. Last but not least. Learn how to love yourself. It will be the greatest thing you will ever do. I’m perfect for me and only me. I love my flaws and scars. My history aint pretty but it has made me how I am. I’ll be honest with you I used to hate myself. But now I love myself and who I am, from my tattooed ankles all the way to my button nose.

Really enjoyed writing this little ranty like post. Do you agree with any of these? Have you got any that you would like to share, let folk know in the comments.

Until next time my lovelies.

Xx

Why Failure Isn’t Always Failure. 

Failure. Such a scary thing but it really ain’t when you look at it from a different point of view. 

At young ages we are taught to be afraid of failure, to be ashamed of ourselves when we do fail. I used to think like that until I hit my early twenties. And things got a whole lot better after some major changes. 

Failure isn’t failure. Shouldn’t really call it that should I?? How about we call it a chance. A chance is something that we do as a risk. We aren’t 100% sure if that risk we take will work out or not. Heck it might be a complete and utter disaster. It might be the best damn thing you will ever do. 

It’s where we learn what works and what doesn’t work. And that is a valuable thing to have because it changes our mindset about taking risks or chances. Thinking of it as a lesson – as in what can I learn from it, I’ll give it a try or let’s see if this method works – these mindsets take the fear away from failing and instead create a mindset of excitment, learning and progression. 

In some cases things do fail or just aren’t working at the time, those cases could be a project or issue that we have been sitting and staring at for far too long. Those times it’s okay to take a step back for a few days and come back to it with fresh eyes. 

Failure if treated like a lesson can open up so many doors. A lesson I had learned from a failure was that I really am better at hand sewing than machine sewing. After several attempts at the machine, 2 meters of ruined fabric and a few hours later I left my project for a few days. I came back later on and tried hand sewing. While it took alot longer, and I had to learn 3 – 4 different stitch types, I had finish my project and the result was amazing. It was my first large scale project with so many things going on at once. 

I hope this post helps any of you. If you have a lesson or something you learned for a ‘failure’ please share it in the comments. I’d love to read others experience’s. 

Until next time my lovelies. Xxx

Plans and Building in 2018!

Hello my lovelies. How are you all? 2018 is just round the corner and I thought this would once again be a great time to share some plans that I hope to get on the ball in 2018.

PERSONAL

Languages. I’ve always wanted to learn a new language for such a long time and in 2018 I’m so determined to do just that. My place of work has so many languages going on and I love the sound of all of them!! 

Swimming. Ross and I plan on going swimming 3 times a week to help with our health. He wants to get healthier and so do I. My breathing has been a damn nightmare and needs sorting. We also plan on being better with our food too!!

Planning, goal setting and journaling. These are personal little goals that I need to work on and keep them going strong. I’ve loved goal setting so far this year. I just need to get my head round the journaling thing. (Everyone else’s journals are so pretty and detailed. Mine is just super plain and boring.)

SHOP

My cute little shop will be worked on a great deal in 2018. I’ve wanted this for years and now that I have it I intend on making it work. Many new ideas are in the works, with some super cuties in development. (Keep an eye on my insta for sneak peaks!) Buisiness cards will be created too and if things go well, a whole website may be in the works. I don’t want to give too much away yet but all I can say is too much cuteness!!

SOCIAL

My plan on being more active on social medias for 2018, this way I can help provide a brilliant level of customer service and people can ask questions. A social media page will be made for the shop too. I’m getting excited that’s for sure!!

Youtube. That was going well but with the lack of a decent camera and editing tools it will take a while to do well. But I don’t plan on giving up on it!! 

My blog is going strong and I defo plan on keeping this going. Some updates are needed and maybe a revamp too. Lets see what happens.

So far 2018 looks like it is going to be an amazing year, with saving for a house and hoping to drive next year it looks like an adventure. And I can not wait to see how things turn out. And I hope that you, my lovely readers will continue to support my blog well into 2018. 

What are your plans for next year?? 

Until next time my lovelies. Xx

Why Our Daily Struggles Are Important.

Our daily lives are some interesting, moving and yet difficult times. Our hands can tell so many stories of our daily stories, the struggles we face and the many experience’s we have. Different people, different stories, different hands. Each person has a story unique that’s special to them. Some have worked in a trade their whole life, have built a family home and lost it all because of a simple mistake. Some are just working away in a place they hate because they don’t know what they want yet, floating between loving their car and what to do with a computer degree. But always coming home to their other half with a few new scars. Some are struggling with finding a job, but studying hard to provide a life not just for themselves but for their child. Whom they’re currently fighting in court to get access to.

These daily struggles build our character, our personalities, the way we handle situations and how we forge relationships. Having a bad day can bring us down but it that’s just one bad day out of 365 days a year, a hurdle that must be jumped or stepped around. Not everyone will go through the same struggles as our individual selves. People ain’t going to understand some of these struggles because let’s be honest they haven’t lived through them. They haven’t had to make those heart wrenching decision’s or deal with some of those nail biting moments. But it’s the same for them to. They will have went through some moments that some people will never be able too understand.

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Age. Strength. Compassion. Understanding. Father.

Will speak his mind in any situation.

 

 

 

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Dedicated. Loving. Other Half. Hard working. Loyal.

A voice of reason when I have none.

 

 

 

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A Mother. Honest. Funny. Worried. Young.

Needs to be reminded of all the things she has achieved.

 

 

Each person means something to me. Each person is going through a different struggle. Has had a different life, has grown but continue’s to grow on a daily basis. They each have determination, belief, confidence with in  themselves and the people around them. These people have grown and become important to me because of their daily struggles. I can learn so much from them, I can also teach them. And that’s why I love them.

Their daily struggle’s don’t beat them it just drives them forward to make their lives better. One day at a time, bad or good each struggle is met head on with our life experience’s.

Until next time.

xx