Settled In and Ready To Go!

Foggy and lush outside our house.

Hello my lovelies. Well I can finally say I’m settled into my new house!! Just in time for the winter season too……perfect. During the last few weeks things have been crazy, from trying to sort the house, family and finally passing my driving test! (I can now drive legally, woop) Its been one crazy little roller coaster. But the wait is over and we are finally in our home. I honestly feel like I’m dreaming!

We have most of the larger stuff sorted and now just need to get all the little nic’s & nac’s that make a house a home. I’m so excited however this crazy gal is just happy to be in her own home. No more living in boxes and all the crazy stress of not being able to do certain things.

Things have been quiet on the shop front which is absolutely fine as I wanted to mainly focus on getting my home sorted. Plus with everything that has been going on I’ve not been as focused there as I should be. However keep your eyes peeled for the new year. I’ve got some surprises coming soon for you all.

A little shop update: things are looking good over there. I’ve got loads of new goodies ready for the new year and to top it all off I have my own little studio/office space! It still needs alot work done to it but its defo on the way there and I can not wait to share it with you guys. Personally I can not wait to get in there and get it set up…..only problem is the style of how I want it. I’ve never had a crafting room before so this is new and a little overwhelming.

With this little update I hope to hear from you all soon.

What has you guys excited and nervous?

Until next my lovelies. Xx

Being Up North

It’s a strange feeling right now. I have the other half asleep in my lap, while our friends are trying to be quiet outside. (It really isn’t working! 😅) We aren’t home, in our flat or have the boys with us but it feels so comforting being surronded by friends. Even though some are settling down for the night (an early start in the morning) and others are recovering from a heavy night. 

It feels nice. While not home, the feeling of that being in the right place takes hold. Could be cause the other half is snoring away!! Could be the fact I have my sewing and drawing book with me, or it may have something to do with being round people we haven’t seen in awhile. The people we are visiting are Ross’s friends but they always make me feel welcome in their group. We wanted to see everyone before the festive period got into full swing. 

The feeling of being north though. That is surreal. It’s only been 5-6 months and things are slowly changing. The feeling of driving up that old road that we ain’t seen for a while or actually seeing people in the flesh and not over some computer screen. It tugs a little at the heart strings. 

But we both want to continue on this crazy journey that we are on. Even though we feel lonely and are missing out on things. We are heading back home in a couple of days but the north will always be our home. Our real home. 

Stop Shaming Support Workers. Why We Are Important. 

Good evening everyone. How are you all doing tonight? A while back I started working back in the care sector. One day in particular or more so a comment stuck out. A woman who doesn’t know me simply called me and I quote ‘an overpaid arse wiper’. She has asked me about my job. 

This woman has clearly never needed the help of support work. Never pushed a wheelchair or held someones hand as they break down. And I hope she never needs us. The work a support worker does is invaluable in many ways other than just PC. (PC means personal care) 

Allow me to break down what we do. 

  • We protect people’s dignity. So yes that means full PC support if they require the aid or prompting. (We can shower ourselves with ease they may find it difficult) Sometimes it can be messy but we always do what we can to protect the people we support.
  • Help with the care of themselves. Medication, finance and social support. Not in all cases but some if they don’t have the capacity to do so. Capacity is the ability to make decsions for ourselves. We assist them with everyday tasks and always offer encouragememt. Things that people take for granted. 
  • Support workers are sometimes the ONLY people our services see. And sometimes the only reason they have a social life. 
  • We fill the void in our services lives. We become a family extension in a way. Why? Let me put this simply……..some families and friends don’t care. They cut contact with the service user. Not all families/friends do this but enough do. And that can be very difficult to deal with. It leaves them upset, confused and hurt. And we as support workers slowly become that family. We also take the anger and confusion that can be thrown at us to. 
  • We support workers at times can deal with serious mental health problems, conditions and other health problems. From dealing with emotional break downs, seizures, falls, all the way to physical violence. (Thats a rare case but it can happen) Staff support each other and also try to defuse and calm any situation quickly for the protection of our service’s.
  • We face challenges. Communicating with someone who is non verbal, a person with no capacity or a person who refuses to eat. Each challenge is difficult but we work towards them in a way that helps our service. 
  • We aid in making calls for appointments. Doctors, dentists etc. At the same time we monitor our service’s health. Basically checking a wound, eating habits and flagging things up that might be a cause for concern. For exmaple, a service who has a mixed relationship with food suddenly stops eating. It could be that they’re ill, it might be something more serious or they may have a history of an eating disorder. We raise these issues and then find ways a working round them. Encouraging to eat smaller amounts of food at regular intervals, perhaps liquizading their food or more fatty foods. 
  • We constantly have to know what’s going on around us when with a service. We have to be aware of everything. Can that car horn cause aniexty? How can I reduce the stress of any changes made to their daily routine? Can not go in their cause of the light’s. It triggers their seizure’s! These are just some of the thought’s that we can have. Each one will be difficult depending on the service’s individual needs. 

This is just the tip of the iceberg of some of the things we do. Support workers give emotional, physical, mental and social support on a daily basis. We are more than just ‘arse wipers’ we do so much more than that. We help people. We aid people. We support people whom many forget about. We encourage individuality and confidence whenever we can. 

It’s a joy to be a support worker. It is difficult and stressful. But damn is it rewarding. 

Xx

Why Our Daily Struggles Are Important.

Our daily lives are some interesting, moving and yet difficult times. Our hands can tell so many stories of our daily stories, the struggles we face and the many experience’s we have. Different people, different stories, different hands. Each person has a story unique that’s special to them. Some have worked in a trade their whole life, have built a family home and lost it all because of a simple mistake. Some are just working away in a place they hate because they don’t know what they want yet, floating between loving their car and what to do with a computer degree. But always coming home to their other half with a few new scars. Some are struggling with finding a job, but studying hard to provide a life not just for themselves but for their child. Whom they’re currently fighting in court to get access to.

These daily struggles build our character, our personalities, the way we handle situations and how we forge relationships. Having a bad day can bring us down but it that’s just one bad day out of 365 days a year, a hurdle that must be jumped or stepped around. Not everyone will go through the same struggles as our individual selves. People ain’t going to understand some of these struggles because let’s be honest they haven’t lived through them. They haven’t had to make those heart wrenching decision’s or deal with some of those nail biting moments. But it’s the same for them to. They will have went through some moments that some people will never be able too understand.

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Age. Strength. Compassion. Understanding. Father.

Will speak his mind in any situation.

 

 

 

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Dedicated. Loving. Other Half. Hard working. Loyal.

A voice of reason when I have none.

 

 

 

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A Mother. Honest. Funny. Worried. Young.

Needs to be reminded of all the things she has achieved.

 

 

Each person means something to me. Each person is going through a different struggle. Has had a different life, has grown but continue’s to grow on a daily basis. They each have determination, belief, confidence with in  themselves and the people around them. These people have grown and become important to me because of their daily struggles. I can learn so much from them, I can also teach them. And that’s why I love them.

Their daily struggle’s don’t beat them it just drives them forward to make their lives better. One day at a time, bad or good each struggle is met head on with our life experience’s.

Until next time.

xx